Our core capabilities:
• Provide Religious Support
• Advise the command on the internal religious support needs and issues and the external effects of religion/culture on the mission.
The chaplain’s role can be summarized in this tripartite phrase: "Nurture the living, care for the wounded, and honor the dead." We accomplish this through site visitations (battlefield circulation), pastoral counseling, and individual and group worship experiences, performing religious rites, sacraments, ordinances and pastoral counseling for wounded soldiers, and conducting memorial services and providing grief and combat stress counseling for soldiers. As one of the commander’s personal staff officers, we advise the commander on matters pertaining to religion, morals, and morale as affected by religion.
Our core competencies:
• We provide for religious needs through a ministry of presence to soldiers within the command – battlefield circulation
• We provide counseling support to soldiers and families within the command. This is provided irrespective of religious beliefs or practices. It is available to anyone – soldiers, family members and DOD civilians in the area of operation.
• All have 100% confidentiality when speaking privately with a military Chaplain.
• We can also advise the Family Support Group in the unit and provide a channel of communication between the FSG and the command. At echelons above Battalion we provide resources, guidance and training to subordinate chaplains and Religious Affairs Specialists in order to enhance the mission capability of Unit Ministry Teams. We work as a team – one Chaplain and one RA Specialist.
• We manage the Unit Ministry Team assets within the command and coordinate the religious support resources and needs of all units within the command and exercises technical supervision over subordinate chaplains and Religious Affairs Specialists.
Bottom Line – if you need spiritual support or just need someone to talk or work through whatever is a challenge in your life call us. We are there to support you and your family.
By CH (LTC) Brett Charsky
| VTNG Family Programs | Dec. 31, 2019
1 Thessalonians 3:12 (ESV) 12 and may the Lord make you increase and abound in love for one another.
January is the time when people make New Year’s resolutions and, while research shows that most people do not keep their resolutions even for the month of January because of a variety of reasons, still we attempt to follow through.
John Gottman (born April 26, 1942) is an American psychological researcher and clinician who did extensive work over four decades on divorce prediction and marital stability. He is known for his work on marital stability and relationship analysis through scientific direct observations, many of which were published in peer-reviewed literature. The lessons derived from this work represent a partial basis for the relationship counseling movement that aims to improve relationship functioning and the avoidance of those behaviors shown by Gottman and other researchers to harm human relationships.
Gottman was recognized in 2007 as one of the 10 most influential therapists of the past quarter century. “Gottman’s research showed that it wasn’t only how couples fought that mattered, but how they made up. Marriages became stable over time if couples learned to reconcile successfully after a fight.” (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/John_Gottman)
Gottman’s research reveals that when couples connect at certain times throughout the day, their relationship improved. Using his research, here are some New Year’s resolutions to consider:
1. Partings = when the first person leaves for work in the morning – how does it go? *Do you give each other a hug and kiss?
2. Reunions = when the last person gets home at night – how do you share and reconnect? *Do you give each other a hug and kiss and communicate?
3. Admiration and Appreciation = what we did today – verbally express appreciation and admiration for your partner. You cannot do this too much!
4. Affection = hugs, kisses, holding hands, rubbing their neck, shoulders, back, or even feet -non-sexual touch!
*Take time to communicate through touch.
5. Weekly date = time having fun together. This is not time to negotiate issues or have fights. Have fun! *Dates can be simple and inexpensive, but are important for the relationship to grow.
(John Gottman, PREP)
May the LORD bless your relationships and your New Year’s Resolutions to emotionally connect with each other.